Maintaining a long-distance relationship is never easy. The lack of physical proximity and the warmth and sense of belonging that comes from physical intimacy can make things extremely challenging.
After all, it is the satisfaction of seeing your partner in flesh & blood, and being able to feel their presence around you is what makes a romantic relationship warm and worthwhile.
No wonder most people tend to believe that long-distance relationships never work. But they are not impossible either. No matter how difficult it is to maintain such relationships, you can enjoy a wholesome bond even when your partner is miles away from you with the right kind of effort.
Here’s how to keep a long-distance alive:
Long-distance relationships are hard work, but because you are physically apart doesn’t mean your relationship has to suffer. Here’s how to make long-distance relationships work:
1. Communicate daily, but not excessively
While communication is important, keeping a balance is equally essential. You must have your long calls, but even if you cannot dedicate a lot of time talking to your partner on a particular day, do communicate anyhow.
A short call, a text message, or an email is good enough. This way, you will stay in touch daily and feel reassured. At the same time, it is unwise to be sticky all the time. You don’t have to be in touch to keep the relationship constantly.
People tend to over-compensate the distance by talking to each other for extended periods, which doesn’t always help. Do talk daily, but strike the right balance.
2. Keep the fire alive even when physically apart
So what if the two of you are not together, today’s technology allows the scope to spice things up in the bedroom, even from a distance. Use the technology wisely. Swap sexy pictures of each other, talk about something that you would want to do when you meet next, have a video call where you can masturbate in front of each other.
You can also use sex toys while doing this to enhance pleasure. Send erotic emails or messages, or have an erotic moviethon.
3. Make the expectations clear
Every relationship comes with the baggage of expectations, and unfulfilled ones are often the reason behind relationships getting sour and people drifting apart. So, setting the expectations clear in a long-distance relationship is extremely important.
You don’t want to be doing things that your partner doesn’t like. Talk things out about what you expect from each other in terms of communication, dedication, loyalty, support (emotional and physical), etc.
4. Stay away from the feeling of cheating
It is quite enticing to have a rendezvous with someone really attractive. But try to control those thoughts. Remind yourself of the kind of hurt you might cause to your partner and the kind of effect a moment of weakness can have on your relationship.
You might also think that you can get away with it since there is no way of finding it out, but you need to be honest with your partner to keep your relationship strong.
5. Make plans to meet as frequently as possible
This is one of the most exciting things to do in a long-distance relationship. Make plenty of plans and make use of every single opportunity to meet your partner. It could be a short trip, but being together even for a couple of days can bring things alive between the two of you.
6. Clarify your future plans individually and together
When you are in a long-distance relationship, it is important to discuss where you see yourself a few years down the line – individually as well as together. These things progress naturally as the relationship goes on, but discussing the future as you grow into a relationship brings more clarity.
7. Send lots of gifts
Who doesn’t like to be pampered? And one sure way of impressing and pampering your partner is sending lots of gifts. These could be anything from cute, lovable soft toys, meaningful and valuable things, or even erotic gifts like couple sex toys so that they can think of you and pleasure themselves while using them.
8. Give each other space
No, it is not counterintuitive. Overtly possessive and sticky partners can be a big turn-off for many, especially in a long-distance relationship. Understand that both one of you will have a life outside of the relationship due to the physical distance, and you need to respect that. If you trust your partner, there is no need to be insecure.
So, be it sending naughty gifts to spice things up or being genuinely dedicated to your relationship to add more depth to it. There are many things you can do to keep a long-distance relationship alive. Be sure that you are mindful of your partner’s emotional and physical needs. Of course, it requires more effort as compared to a normal relationship, but isn’t love worth that much effort?